Saying YES to Life is not always an easy thing to do, as we meet our personal (and collective) challenges and difficulties, in any area of our lives: personal, business, relationship, family, etc.
My powerful life experiences and training enable me to help people in all sorts of ways. I am truly blessed to be able to do this. As you look through my website, I hope you feel the compassion, healing, commitment I have, to wanting you to be happy and safe.
When I was about 10 years old, my mother left my father. I was expecting her to come back with my Barbie dolls from London. She never did.
At the school assembly hall in the morning, I heard a voice saying to me, “You will now look after your sister and brothers.” I looked around me, wondering who said this. There was no one around me.
“OK,” I said innocently, not knowing what it would entail. I remember immediately making a silent prayer to God, asking for his help and committing to do this.
“I will do this. Please help me.”
I never complained or felt hard done by. I was happy; and simply carried out the instruction, with vigour and commitment.
This attitude has served me very well in all areas of my life. It was like the Divine was preparing me for my work. So when I got another voice in my ear, another message, that I would NOT have children of my own, and I would look after other peoples children, I said “OK.” This time, I did cry and shout! After the human reaction, I realised the great mission and accepted it. TO SERVE HUMANITY.
Life happens and no matter what, we cry. It is important to cry. Then after a healthy period of whatever negative emotion comes up; we MUST get up, dust everything off, and then, continue with our life.
Toks is pronounced like the word ‘jokes’ with a ‘T’ instead of the ‘j’. Pronounced ‘Tokes’.
Toks is an abbreviation of my full Yoruba (Nigerian) name, Adetokunbo. Nigerian names have deep meaning. Adetokunbo means “The Crown has come from across the Waters.” This is a unisex name given to any child (male or female) born abroad, i.e. across the oceans. I was born in London and taken home to Nigeria to live.
I was brought up the traditional Nigerian way, very strict and very disciplined, with a lot of love. I treasures many happy memories.
In terms of numerology, her name ‘Toks’ adds up to 11, a Master Number. I am a water sign, born on the 7th day and the 7th month. So, no surprise, I love the sea.
I am the daughter of a cricketer, professor, gynaecologist, doctor, teacher of medical students, a Nigerian Chief and Shaman. A lot of his students are now very successful doctors around the world, in UK, USA and Europe. He is fondly remembered for his brilliance and his love of cricket. At his funeral, many women approached me to share the miracle my father had created for them. They had better health . They had babies when they were told they would not. May he rest in perfect peace. “RIPP Daddy. RIPP Sir.”
I am the daughter of a retired midwife, writer, painter, artist, teacher and sculptor. My wonderfully intellectual English mother loves listening to classical music, drinking tea and watching old movies on TV. When she was a midwife, she would whisper a prayer into each of the baby’s ears to be happy and safe. Sometimes, I would hear her crying from the pain and suffering when the mothers or babies were not getting better. What a great heart!
I have three younger siblings: my sister, Remi, an architect, and my two brothers, Julian, a surgeon and Jeremy, a chartered accountant. All are great teachers and practitioners in their chosen field.
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